Joe ordered me a new ring!
It’s one of those silicon Qalo rings. I call it the “Mom Ring.”
Fun fact: I have a good amount of jewelry that I do not wear. Joe really wishes I would since he bought them over the years lol.
Thing is, it’s a hassle. This is me being honest.
Yes – plenty of moms wear their wedding bands, cute necklaces and earrings – I don’t.
When AJ was little my ring would scratch him during changes, so I got in the habit of taking it off. That habit turned into leaving it in the box.
As toddler years approached things got rough. Those were honestly the hardest years for AJ and I.
We had a good amount of meltdowns and a diamond scratching him while I was trying to keep him safe never helped. It was always a full body meltdown – for mom and son.
So why not wear my ring now that AJ rarely has self harm meltdowns? I still have to do all of his personal hygiene things.
At nearly six years old and sixty-five pounds, I am bathing him, helping him wash up, cleaning his bottom and so on.
He’s making great progress but I’m still his primary care taker in that sense. So a lot of hand washing.
The second reason is AJ is pretty heavy on stimming – mostly on me. Sounds weird right? Let me explain.
AJ will come and lay on top of me, put his face to my glasses and squint, try and pull earrings, fiddle with necklaces, run his fingers through my hair, and ask to be held like an infant in cradle position (for deep pressure) – just to name a few.
Let me just say that you don’t know how obnoxious jewelry can be until you are in those moments. That’s how it is for me at least.
I love my AJ time but we are working hard on his understanding of personal space and personal hygiene skills.
When he isn’t so invasive with the body slams that start off with charging me and rocking his personal hygiene tasks, I will put my other jewelry on.
In the meantime, I will rock my mom ring.
To my husband: Thank you for always understanding that not wearing my jewelry isn’t an insult and always finding ways to give me a piece of identity back.
Until next blog ❤
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